This is not mine, but I think it is really good read. I am going to post a small portion but please follow the link and read the whole article it is pretty good.
Monday, July 27, 2009
The Thirds Rule
I’m a basketball coach. That’s what I do. I want people around me that have the same passion for the game. I don’t feel that I’m overly demanding, but one thing I absolutely demand is sacrifice. I ask my players to sacrifice themselves for the benefit of the entire team. I tell them that they need to give up the desire for personal accolades and focus on team goals and team rewards.
After pounding that concept into them for days and weeks, I ask my players to create goals for the season. Without fail, 90% start with goals like “get a scholarship, average 20 points per game, average 10 assists per game, make All-Conference”. “Win a championship” is usually 3rd or lower on the list, if it even shows up. Where does my message fail? Our society is raising selfish kids that don’t understand that when the team achieves their goals, EVERYONE gets what they want.